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Friday, February 15, 2013

Tori's Struggle with Drug Addiction (Part 3)


The day I saw Dr. Dewey was a Friday. I had taken pills that morning about 9am. My appointment was at 11am. So by the time I got home I was already feeling sick. On my way home I had so many emotions going through me. I was scared to death to go through detox but I was done taking pills. I knew as soon as I got home I had to flush all the pills I had, because I knew when it got bad and when I got super sick I needed to have no options but go through the detox. I also contacted my friend that day and told her the gig was up. She was cold to me, but I knew that it was a necessary step.

What I experienced for the next seven days was something that is hard to express in words. By that evening I felt completely weak and very nauseated. By the time it had been 24 hours I just wanted to die. Looking back it was a good thing that I got rid of all my pills, because without a doubt being as sick as I was, I would have taken anything to not feel the way I felt. Although my husband felt like I needed to be in rehab, I knew in my heart that I could do it myself; which was a lot harder than I expected. I can’t tell you the countless prayers that I said during that week. And I know at times that prayer was the only reason I was able to continue.

Dr. Dewey has been a listening ear for me and I see him every couple weeks to check in. The reason for sharing my story is because I want women that are going through my same struggles to know that it is possible to take back control of your life. Never give up hope! The 4-7 days of hell that you’ll go through doesn’t compare to how good you’ll fell knowing you’ve got your life back. It will always be something that I struggle with. It’s been just over two months now, so it’s something I think about every day. I’m no longer in a fog. I can think clearly. I’ve lost weight – about twenty pounds! My relationships will take some time to mend completely, and I’m far from perfect, but I’m grateful I’m where I am at today.

This may sound silly, which people without addiction might not understand, but I still have refills on some of the pain pills. I have chosen to leave it that way because it empowers me to know that I that they are within an arm’s reach but I chose every day for myself that I don’t want them in my life. Choosing to stop on my own is so much better than someone else choosing for me. – Tori, age 34

I believe Tori will make it! She is unusual in that she came to a self-realization early and was able to sop “cold turkey”. We often will taper someone and use other meds to damper the effect so the withdrawal but her method worked for her.

She emphasized an important point I alluded to earlier; most people can’t be forced to change their behavior. The change has to come from inside. Locking someone away from the problem only solves the problem temporarily and superficially. Tori felt empowered to change her life and having a prescription around added to that source of empowerment, but I wouldn’t recommend it for most. Stay as far away from it as possible, it’s not a good idea for an alcoholic to spend a lot of time in a bar.

                Is Tori at risk to start using again? I believe she is and I’ve talked to her carefully about his. The physical and psychological aspects of her life have not completely changed. She will still have a high level of risk because of these needs to justify, and return to her drug use. Her awareness of this will help.

How do all of you see this? Any comments or questions?

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